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Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations
Every couple fights — but rarely about what they think they're fighting about. Drawing on attachment science and Emotionally Focused Therapy, this microbook reveals that most relationship conflict is a protest against emotional disconnection. Through seven key conversations, it shows how to break negative cycles, heal real wounds, and build a bond that actually lasts.
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Who it is for
For anyone who feels stuck in the same exhausting argument with their partner, who senses emotional distance growing, or who wants to understand why love so often feels fragile — and what it takes to make it feel safe.
About the Author
Sue Johnson is a Canadian psychotherapist with a doctorate in counseling therapy. She is the co-founder of Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), a science-based approach primarily used as a form of couple’s therapy. Johnson is the head of the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute and also a professor of clinical psychology at the University of Ottawa.
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- Recognize the negative patterns trapping your relationship before they take over.
- Understand how past emotional wounds shape your reactions to your partner today.
- Discover how vulnerability and emotional responsiveness rebuild lasting connection.
Key Takeaways
- Most relationship conflicts are not about the surface issue — they are protests against emotional disconnection rooted in attachment needs.
- A secure emotional bond makes partners more resilient and independent, not weaker or more dependent.
- Moments of genuine vulnerability between partners trigger real biochemical changes that strengthen the bond at a neurological level.
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